Forgiveness in Marriage
Enough articles have been written that we can understand Jesus as using a figure of speech and not literally indicating an upward limit of 490 occurrences before kicking one’s “brother” (whether physical or spiritual) to the curb. If a lifestyle of unending forgiveness to those who sin against you is the norm, then what does this speak to our marriage relationship?
Remember that marriage is a depiction of Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:25-32). Two become one in a relationship of mutual sacrifice and self-denying love for sake of the other. Biblical reasons for divorce are slim, and are even fewer and further between under Christ’s new covenant. For the Christian, the only legitimate reasons for divorce are when the other partner is adulterous and wants to leave, or is an unbeliever and wants to leave.
There is no legitimate reason for a Christian to initiate a divorce—especially if their spouse is repentant and willing to work out their issues.
Men—BE A MAN. Work at making your marriage work.
Invest in it like nothing else in your life, because your marriage is a direct reflection of your relationship with and respect for God. Your relationship with your wife is a testimony to the world, it is an act of worship before Jesus Christ, and it is a sacrifice of love. There is no way to honor your wife by forsaking her. On the contrary, we are instructed to *study* our wives; to understand them—to know them in detail—and to cherish and treat her respectfully and delicately. After all, men, your wife is the best blessing that a sovereign God could design *specifically for you.* Treat her as such.
“You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7